my husband has an old girlfriend that he talks to. Not on a regular basis, but they drop an email once in a while. She is actually the best friend of his best friend's girlfriend, so they stay in touch. I'm very touchy about her, because he cheated with her early in our relationship. It's always bothered me that he corrosponds with her. I figure, he cheated with her once, what's to stop from doing it again? Plus, I;m pretty insecure about my weight, and she's skinnier than me, and basically everything i think he wants in a woman. he knows how I feel, but we both agree that the past is the past. I'm really trying to get over all that.

She dropped him an email the otehr day letting him know what she was up to. I'm cleaning out his email for him about once a week, so i see all his mail. I responded to her that he was overseas and gave her his new email address if she wanted to contact him. This was REALLY hard for me to do. It would have been so easy to delete the message and pretend it never happened. But my shoulder angel said that I had to do the right thing - besides, what's he going to do five thousand miles away? The devil on the other shoulder was real quick to remind me that he would be back eventually.

I trust my husband. But we all know how attached we can sometimes get to a bit of the past. someone tell me I did the right thing. I know I did, I just need to hear it from someone else.

LAW