What do you want from us here?

Do you want our sympathy and to feel sorry for you? You have posted two threads and there has been some darn good advise sent your way, but you are not hearing any of it.

Why is that? Could it be your too wrapped up in bitterness and feeling sorry for yourself? Are you in too much pain to realize what is being offered to you? No one here is going to call your ex names or tell you that she is not worthy of you.

To me it seems this is what you want. We all need validation, but this is not the way to find it for it must come from within you. You must learn to be comfortable in your own skin. You must feel good about yourself because of who you are, not because you feel your a guy that was a great boyfriend and now has been shit on.

It is you who must seek the remedy for your feelings of low self esteem and if your feeling as bad as you relay here, then maybe it should be done through some time and patience along with some professional help.

lPeople hurt people everyday. That's life and although it sucks, it is how we learn to deal with life and adapt to adversity when it arises.

No one here has a magic word to make things right for you. Just remember this....a person must feel good about themselves before they are any good for another in a relationship. You both have to be on equal footing and one partner cannot bloom in the shadow of another.

You really should try to talk to someone face to face who is qualified to help you sort out why you feel the way you do.

...just my two cents and goodluck

Try getting involved in study groups with your different classes. It's a great way to socialize without feeling any pressure. This may help you break the ice and someone may come on to you.

See even like my best friend said. My entire social life suffers because I commute to school instead of just living on campus. Well at least for my PhD program I am going to be living on campus so that SHOULD help a bit.

It's a shame that you think that.

Fussypucker poured out his soul to you in his first reply on this thread. He gave you practical, sensitive advice from his own personal experience of depression, social anxiety and lonliness. He shared things on this thread, of which I, his own wife, only had an inkling before, purely in order to HELP YOU.

However since you didn't even acknowledge what he had to say, let alone act on any of the advice given by him or anyone else, I'm afraid it's easy to conclude that not even you are taking your problems seriously.

Forgive us if some of have made light of your situation, but you've made light of our advice, and yet continue to seek it.