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Good for you LAW - you did a very brave and selfless thing which will help to strengthen your relationship with your husband and this woman.

You may not always feel you can trust your husband against temptation, but if you can earn this woman's respect, you'll be able to trust her not to put temptation in his way.

You're an example to us all.

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You may not always feel you can trust your husband against temptation, but if you can earn this woman's respect, you'll be able to trust her not to put temptation in his way.

I'm sorry, but I don't agree with that at all. Experience has taught me that no matter HOW CLOSE someone is to you, if they want to "put temptation in his way" they'll do it.

I once, key word here is ONCE, had a friend that I thought I could trust around my boyfriend, even though she flirted with him NON STOP and called him on the phone. I thought that since I was close to her, she wouldn't dare do such a thing. But she did, and he let her. Your statement, while it sounded good, isn't quite true.

What LAW should do, like PF said, is set boundaries. I would NEVER trust a woman who has already had an affair with my husband not to tempt him.

I agree with cherrypie on this one. But you did show her that she can't sneak around and you did it with class. You should have told her that if she behaves herself you might let her have a 3 some with the two of you. :D
Don't ever show your insecurites hun. It's a sign of weakness and a big turnoff for men.

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Originally Posted by cowgirltease

PLEASE! I have no insecurites.

No, just kidding. Insecurity is my middle name.

As far as a 3some goes. Obviously it will be in the distant future as a distance of about 4000 miles does put a cramp in these things. But i don't think I would want to go there with her anyway. Too weird. At least for now.

Ya know... a woman who loves her husband and is true to him should NOT have to worry about doing the "right thing" when a former lover of the hubby's comes along. Fuck the "right thing", I think you should do what is right for YOU... I believe that what is right for you and healthiest for your marriage would be considered the "right thing".

The question, in my heart, isn't if you're doing the right thing, but rather if your husband is doing the right thing. Sorry, but she should be "cut loose". Period.

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Originally Posted by lonelyarmywife

But she doesn't need to know that. All you gave her was the "go ahead" to keep writing him. What if she does? Then what are you gonna do? How are you gonna feel? Can he have her as a friend? Do you TRUST him?
You better have a PLAN A and a PLAN B hun. You'll have to be able to talk openly about her to him without a hint of jealousy in your voice. I think you need to get to know your enemy while he's away. ;) The more you two talk the less apt she'll be to pursue anything underhanded.;) You may even find a few things about him you never knew!

PantyFanatic Rule No. 37
Never warm a dormant snake in your bed.

:rolleyes2

She ain't dormant anymore so she better meet it head on.
Or at least she isn't acting dormant.......
A tease is a tease but if she knew he was married she crossed the line without asking you first! Sic em Girlie! Play her fuckin game just keep your eyes wide open.
PF......... bitches are very sneaky. you should know that by now. Thats why I'm tellin her NOW to take the upper hand. Quiz the shit out of her. Be her best friend if need be. Women can see thru all that shit. That's why we're from Venus :D

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Originally Posted by fzzy

You made the perfect choice!!! And personally I think the fact that you emailed her with the info is setting down the ground rules (if she didn't know already) ... it says that he trusts you with his home email info and to handle things as they should be done ... and that you trust him enough to forward his info to her .... Sometimes just acting as if ... you aren't jealous and you are confident in the choices he will make ... will make it that much more likely that you are correct.

As Lil said ... know that doesn't mean the choice you made was easy!!!

As Osuche said .... you can only trust him to keep the promises you've made to each other .... he could cheat with anyone at anytime if that's what he decides to do! But just remember, he chose you ... even after he knew her ... so it must be you he really wants! :)

Fzzy said it very nice here.
LAW,
I applaud your trust in your hubby and I think you did the right thing and with him telling you that he was suprised as well just told him how much you trust him.
You seem like a very lovely lady and I hope the best for you.
Even though this girl is best friends with his best friend girl friend, I don't think they need to stay in contact any longer; especially, after he cheated with her. If it was just to remain friends, that is one thing, but once they crossed the boundaries, then she needed be cut out of his life. I applaud you for that as well. I hope your hubby understands how lucky he has it and respects you to not to wonder at all any more.

I know this is an old thread, but I just had to say something. I have been in the military and away from my love, and had this happen to us, I would have alot more respect and admiration for my wife being able to do that. I hope your man does too. :wingang:

you did the right thing.

Right or wrong only time will tell. Your husband is with you and not her! so he already made his choice and it's YOU!

The question would have been, would he have told you he was going to meet her while she was intown?

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Originally Posted by acepen

The question would have been, would he have told you he was going to meet her while she was intown?

If he were in town and going to meet her, he would have told me about it...period.

thanks all for you advice and admiration. He never contacted her back after I forwarded the email, so i guess all is well. :)