Alright... I realize that this subject is tossed around countless times on the net in general... but I wanted to pose it here.. since those here tend to be more open and honest about their thoughts...

For all of you guys and gals...

Would you date someone who would be considered a BBW or BBM? And if so, would the fact that they are limit the chances that the relationship would become serious? On the other side.. would it bother you if the spouse that you married, over time became a BBW/BBM? Do you think that it would negatively effect your sexual desire?

For those of you who would never consider becoming involved with someone who falls into this category... Why not? Is it actually the "fat" issue, or is it more what others may/may not say?

How would you react if suddenly, without much warning you yourself became a BBW/BBM (it is possible, medically it could happen). How do you think it would change your sexual being?

I ask this for many reasons...

I have a close friend who is tall and slender.. a wonderful person, a great mother, a fantastic wife (in my opinion). Her husband is equally marvelous and they have been married for 18 years. She once told me years ago that he told her that if she ever got "fat" that he wouldn't remain married to her.

On a more personal level.... I consider myself to be a BBW... smaller than many I would guess but a BBW none the less. I am aware that there are men who truly find those of us who are BBW's attractive, afterall there are many BBW sites that have HUGE (no pun intended) member followings. But I believe that those who do are shy about it (for whatever reason).

It would be my guess that those who come to Pixies are more inclined to appreciate those of us who fall into the BBW/BBM category because they tend to be more sure with themselves and open to the idea.

I imagine that many people saw "Shallow Hal"... which in my opinion was a wonderful experiment in human behavior. One of my best movie experiences occured while watching that movie. The majority of people who were in the theater were "couples" who were much closer to picture perfect that myself. I so enjoyed watching the movie... laughing.. seeing the reality of it all... and listening to those around me gasp and squirm in their seats at such an accurate portrayal..

So.. your thoughts.. good and bad.. as brutally as neccessary.. would love to know your thoughts..