I am with you Aqua on the "watch the fuck out" if anything like this was to happen to my children. Unfortunately the first person who ever sexually victimized me still lives in the same house with my mother and is still married to her. Since my mother chooses to stay with him my children never get to visit her unless she comes to the state I live in.
-Summer

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I wish I had let my b/f go after the first guy, the second, as I said I think I was just wanting to offically lose my virginity without it being my fault.....

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I'm not gonna bother to say that it wasn't your fault...just about everyone else that's posted has said so no use in me sayign it is there? I've had more than a few of my friends raped. Been nearly raped myself on quite a few occasions. The ones that I remember the most are when I was 5, 7 and 16. The first two were by my step-sisters' father...he decided that he liked little defenseless girls I guess. I've never really been able to get over it, even talking about it doesn't always help.

I just don't understand how people can do sick things like that. The third time was by a guy I had a crush on, he was drunk so maybe it wasn't his fault. Maybe it was mine for leading him on. I don't know but I know after that I haven't been able to be comfortable at parties or aruond guys I don't know. I can't seem to trust them. I keep looking over my shoulder and wondering if one of them will succeed where the others failed. You hear lots about girls being raped on the news, especially lately. And every night I come home from school, looking over my shoulder and wondering if tonight will be my turn.

When events like these reach the media, attention turns towards catching the perpetrators, and then retribution, usually through the judicial system.

Axe31 ~ it was very interesting to hear you advise against such summary justice, most of us would have at least wanted to react in this way. And believed this would have made the victim as well as ourselves feel a lot better, and maybe the matter dealt with.

Grumbleguts ~ On the topic of revenge, as this appauling attack took place on a military base, one would assume it was relatively easy to identify the culprits? Did it help at all when your attackers were caught and punished. Assuming they were of course.

Like someone else,,when I saw this post I wasn't going to post but figured you all had the guts so I should to. Mine was a b/f who supposedly loved me and cared for me, and for all you that say it's your fault-I also think that, I stayed with him after the first,second,third and fourth time he did it, I was stupid and naive he said it wouldn't happen again he was sorry and I stupidly believed him. I would cry and say no and it didn't matter, he didn't care that I was bleeding, and hurt looking back I think he liked it,,almost like that was his goal, to make me bleed. He didn't just use himself either, whatever was handy made a good tool to cause me pain to punish me for whatever suppossed act I did that day that might have embarrassed him or whatever his rational was, there was no rational to what he did, a year later I found out how much damage he did not ony to my mental well being but physically I had to have surgery to repair the damage, let alone the years of thearpy and all the other things I did to myself. I look at mine different I let him continue to do it,by staying with him,,,I was stupid, and a very young 19. It did help to make me who I am today but there are parts of that person I don't like much because of it,,,,and I am still working on that,,,it has been over 7 years since I have even seen this person in the flesh but I still have nightmares about it and him,,I just wish they would go away,,
Anywazz sorry for rambling but thought I would share since everyone else was soo good too

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I have been reading this thread, and been comtemplating on whether to post a comment or not.

First off, May I say to everyone. My hat is off to each one of you that have posted. Even though I know how hard it was for you to bring up the terrible things that have happened to you.

I guess I am one of the lucky ones, I was touched when I was younger by another guy, but I got away before anything happened. It is unfortunate that alot of people don't.

The closest I have been to this situation was with my ex wife. She was raped by a group of guys, and I will forever be blessed that she could still trust me when I got there to her and not be afraid of me.

Like someone else said, once I knew she was safe and secure, and nobody else could hurt her. It took quite a few of my friends from finding these guys and doing some serious damage to them permanently. I knew where they worked and could've very easily tracked down all the other information. Would it have solved anything, No. But what it would've done is make sure that a creature like that could never hurt another person that someone else loved. I never did go through with my thoughts and I won't illerterate on what they were, lets just say that I pulled every little thought I had ever read or thought of for revenge and it was all going through my mind.

The creatures that think that they can do things like this to people are one of the lowest forms of lifeforms there are. They feed off of another person's fears and pain.

I know I am rambling, it happens sometimes. But what I wanted to say mainly is.

For each every person that has opened themselves up and let us know what has happened. You have my deepest wishes that your life will forever on, be filled with happiness and safety. Everyone of ya'll are a testiment to the strength of your souls to show us that even though someone may have hurt you in a way that can never be totally healed, you are still here and strong enough to not let it stop you.

Sorry for babbling, just know you have my heartfelt Respect.

SexKittten_18, u dont have to worry about being raped as long as im around. i promise with everything i am that i will never let anything happen to you. i love you and you're safe now.

Thank you love, but I'm one of the lucky ones, it's never happened to me. Almost is not the same as having it happen for real. I think there are many people out there that need that same kind of protection that you give me. I wish there was one of you for everyone that needs someone like that to help them get through it.

I still cannot remember all the details. I can remember having to look at all the guys on the base through a tinted window. They marched them all up, I could not recognise any and all i wanted to do was hide. Another airman overheard a couple of guys talking about it and told the police who they were. Under intense questioning they confessed but did not identify their accomplices.
My sketchy recollection made it unwise to prosecute but these guys were discharged immediately.

It gives me no comfort really. I lost so much in that attack and it was buried so deep it took more than 30 years to resurface.
I am a gentle person and hate that people are violated like this.

I just want to send out all my love to you guys and gals who have experienced this. I have two friends who have been raped, and the emotional scars and trauma they have endured just breaks my heart. It is truly sickening that people have it in them to do things like this to others. The closest that I have come to being raped was by an ex-boyfriend, who tried to force me into giving him a blow job. I managed to get away from him, and ran out to my car and left-- I never accepted another phone call or saw him again, and to this day I wonder if he would have tried more if he succeeded in forcing fellatio-- the very thought makes me shake still. I was very lucky to have gotten away from him. When I told my current boyfriend about the situation, he had the same reaction as Axe, wanting to go and rip this guy apart. I guess it is only natural to want revenge. In this case, I just wanted this guy out of my life-- I'm a firm believer that what goes around comes around. Hugs to all of you- You deserve all the love and happiness the world has to offer, and never ever think otherwise.

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Tornados, earthquakes and human predators are all things beyond our

control. Putting ourselves in situaltions may be an error of judgement

but not a basis for fault.

Unless you set out to get raped, it's not your fault.

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I'll discuss several of the previous replies to this thread.

First, if you *do* deliberately set out to "get raped", it's not really rape. It's rough sex. For instance, if you get together with someone and want to roleplay a rape fantasy, that is really no different than any other B&D play.

If you're walking through dark alleys at night, that may not be wise, but it's not your fault even if you do it nude. It's the rapist's choice to force himself (usually) upon you.

Before age 5, I was raped/mollested by a total of 12 people, including 3 women. I didn't ask for it, even though one of my perpetrators told me several years ago that I did. What a sick person! If a 2 year old is laying on the bed stark naked yelling "fuck me", a reasonable thing to do is to tell the child to put their clothes on, and find out where they learned that/those words and behavior, then take the child to a doctor and psychologist, and perhaps notify the police if anything reasonable can be ascertained from the child.

At age 12, I was raped by a stranger, because my stepfather kept dropping me off in an unsafe place in the dark. It was still the rapist's fault; I didn't even have any choice in the matter.

I was raped by my first husband also. I was initially consenting, but he decided to hold me down and force the issue at knifepoint at some point.

Yes, I've had therapy about all of these issues. I'm very much ok with it now. In fact, it has helped whenever I have a friend who comes to me and confide that he or she has been raped or mollested. It *really* helps with the empathy and understanding that they want and need!

Incidentally, I also have a diagnosis of bipolar. It has *nothing* to do with my prior negative sexual experiences. In fact, bipolarity is the most *physically* based brain disorder in existence! That is no more anyone's fault than diabetes. Also, it can be controlled by changing the brain's chemistry.

Oh yeah, I've always liked sex. There were certain things I could not do, and the ones I want to be able to do come back as time goes on and I want them to. There were things that were done to me that I never stopped liking. There were many things that were never done to me, which were never a problem.

I have a "rolling pin" analogy. Sex is like a rolling pin. You can use a rolling pin to beat someone over the head, or use a rolling pin to make a nice pie for them to eat. Likewise, you can use sex to hurt someone, sometimes badly. You can also use sex to give extreme pleasure. You can use sex to share great love.

Very well said, LizH....

And I am sorry to hear that such a thing happened to you especially at such a young age, let alone ever.

Typed out alot more but it was mainly just resaying what you have already said. So I will leave it at, I am glad that those people didn't break your will, and it is great that you are able to help those around you that have gone through it now.

I just wanted to apologize to DZ for misleading him with my subject title

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bama no problem
it's just that while i sympathise with people who were raped (my second wife woke up in a park beaten,burned and raped) i also know that women are told by certain groups that it's a sure fire way to get custody and besides myself i know 5 other men (not from a group we were just talking about our divorces) who had their lives and reputations ripped apart. i know more people screwed by this than the otherway around. in case you wonder how come i trust these guys it's because the only place alegations were made is in divorce court although i did face a jury for violating a non-existant restraing order. so if this is a touchy subject for me i ask your indulgance

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