My husband and I have only had sex/made love, once, in the past 18 months. We're not spring chickens...but we're not dead, either. I've noticed that he talks about fantasies, and can write about fantasies, but can't "do anything". He says he's tired. We have been through quite a lot in the last year. He gets a little "frisky", and then falls asleep before the clothes are off. I'm frustrated and to the point of not even wanting to do anything with him. I'm even fantasizing about getting with an older gentleman I know. It's weird, but just talking to this man arouses me. So, what do I do to get the fantasy out of my head and put some life in my husband. One thing I will state, and many won't like it. I think a man's penis is highly overrated. This is a first post on a board like this and I'm kind of uncomfortable with it.