My son dumped his girlfriend, the university and my mother (who funded part of the university), before Christmas and split for Las Vegas. He is now living there with his friends. It took 11 phone messages form me and 7 from my mother on Christmas Eve, to get a response from him on Christmas Day. He was supposed to be there. He was not. I was. I kept up a steady distraction and happy fun stuff and anecdotes for the next few days I was there. He never called back and I still have not heard from him. 10 minutes before I had to leave for the airport last wednesday (27th), my son-in-law calls me to tell me my daughter has left him for a married guy in town. The guy has a 9 year old daughter and an open marriage with his wife. He is now contemplating divorcing his wife for my daughter. I have not spoken to my daughter since before Christmas. My son-in-law and my in-laws are crushed. She told no one and lied about the affair for 2 months. I've had to listen to my son-in-law on the phone...as has hubby, and I got to make the phone call to my mother to update her and also got to make the phone call to my in-laws, both who are in poor health. Mother is in wheelchair with debilitating rheumatoid arthritis...dad is on oxygen and I think diabetic. Daughter has been getting money from them and they are on a pension. I am trying hard not to get involved. They are all adults and I am not responsible for their behavior. Disgusted and upset, but not responsible. No, I am not going to attempt to contact either one. I have tried that and gotten no response. So...Hub and I are starting the new year with a different outlook on things. I had hoped to include son and daughter in things and build more on our relationship. But, this tells me that I am nothing to them, really. So...on I go. Lots to clear out mentally and around the house. Son didn't even give me address, and daughter is in Massachusetts for a yoga seminar. The cost was funded by the boyfriend. Yes, it was one helluva Christmas. Thanks for letting me post.

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