my husband has an old girlfriend that he talks to. Not on a regular basis, but they drop an email once in a while. She is actually the best friend of his best friend's girlfriend, so they stay in touch. I'm very touchy about her, because he cheated with her early in our relationship. It's always bothered me that he corrosponds with her. I figure, he cheated with her once, what's to stop from doing it again? Plus, I;m pretty insecure about my weight, and she's skinnier than me, and basically everything i think he wants in a woman. he knows how I feel, but we both agree that the past is the past. I'm really trying to get over all that.

She dropped him an email the otehr day letting him know what she was up to. I'm cleaning out his email for him about once a week, so i see all his mail. I responded to her that he was overseas and gave her his new email address if she wanted to contact him. This was REALLY hard for me to do. It would have been so easy to delete the message and pretend it never happened. But my shoulder angel said that I had to do the right thing - besides, what's he going to do five thousand miles away? The devil on the other shoulder was real quick to remind me that he would be back eventually.

I trust my husband. But we all know how attached we can sometimes get to a bit of the past. someone tell me I did the right thing. I know I did, I just need to hear it from someone else.

LAW

I was sooooo hoping you sent it so I could indeed say it!!!!


You did the right thing. (((hugs))) Wouldn't it be nice if the easy thing and the right thing were the same sometimes????

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You didn’t do a wrong thing. You are a very upright person.

Maybe a little note telling HER that you gave it to her in spit of the consideration to do otherwise would set the boundaries and the fact that they ARE watched. It will of course get back to him and maybe give him the same message. It’s not bad when EVERYBODY understands the rules of the game.

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Speaking as a mere male here, I think you did the right thing... far better to make it clear now.

Its probably better in the long term. At least yours is a reasonably conventional one, mine isnt.. its a long distance one, and with frequent visits. Actually, a fellow Pixian (she'll know when she reads this) tried to tell me off for flirting. I asked my girl and she said she'd be annoyed if I didn't! As long as she gets her share, she isn't too bothered what i do here. In fact I may persuade her to join to meet you all so you can hear for yourself!

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(((((LAW))))) ~~ you did the right thing, lady.

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LAW big (((hugs)))) Yes, you did the right thing.

I know you did the right thing, LAW. I probably wouldn't have done it, which says more about your character than mine. I would take PF's advice though about sending her a little note.

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It's a BOY!!

Sorry LAW,but i'm not so self righteous as some of the other respondents,i think you should have sent a clear message to her to stop the correspondence with your husband,and then send one to him informing him of your actions,just my ten cents worth, lol

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I'm so miserable with out you,

It's almost like having you here

I think that you did the right thing. Coming from not-quite-the-other-side-of-the-fence, i.e. I am best friends with one of my ex's, and that sometimes makes his girlfriends uncomfortable. You don't really know how she feels or where she's coming from, so I don't think that telling her off is a good idea, because I would be extremely offended by something like that. Anyway. Yes, you did the right thing.

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cause I'd rather feel pain than nothing at all

I think you did fine Hon.... just try not to let second guessing worry you.

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PS I read the words of your sig, blkcat, and I can't say I care for their sentiment. But its your choice.

English and proud of it....

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Yes, you did the right thing. Us girls sure do get jealous and that's natural. But you being the person you are will make things ok and he is with you for a reason.

Hugs

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you did the right thing.

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Right or wrong only time will tell. Your husband is with you and not her! so he already made his choice and it's YOU!

The question would have been, would he have told you he was going to meet her while she was intown?