My partner usually wants me to cum first. So much so that for a while he got obsessed with appetizer orgasms, getting me off before he'd come into me. Which is wonderful, and I wouldn't ever ever complain...but sometimes it's not what I want. Sometimes I want him before that first wonderful tension is released. Sometimes I just want to tease, drive him wild with my body, I'm not looking for an orgasm every time I take my top off. I want different things every time. So sometimes, he does get to cum first.