03-29-2005, 07:10 AM
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Join Date: May 2001
Location: SouthEast Michigan
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My wife and I have been together for 16 years. It isn't her cup of tea, but when we do, she is totally into it as long as I am gentle and slow.
When you talk to her, reassure her that you will be gentle and will stop if she asks. It took my wife and I three tries until we finally did it as the first try, we didn't use enough lube and it hurt, the second try, she remembered the first try and was very nervous.
She says now when we do, she does feel naughty and she like it.
Yes, go down on her and when she starts cumming, I would try a pinky then work your way up.
Get a very small dildo that isn't too fat and play with that the first time to show her how patient you are willing to be and that she can trust you. Yes...use lots and lots of lube...lube the dildo..your fingers....
Then when you two are ready, use lots of lube on his...I recommend spooning for the first time and let her push him into herself so she controls the tempo and how much goes in. Do not thrust into her...again, stay patient. It is about her. You mess this up, you will be lucky to get another shot. Once she starts moving back and forth, then you know she is ready for you to start moving as well. Keep the lube handy becuase she may need more half way through.
I hope you get your shot, but make it about her....get some flowers....draw her a bubble bath....get some wine coolers, massage her...you need to make her relaxed. If she is tense...it will not happen.
Good luck!!
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