05-06-2002, 07:58 AM
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Darwin, Australia
Posts: 1,399
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Interesting thread
Like Oldfart, I also have been flirting since goodness knows when.
All my partners are aware of this and my enjoyment of erotica.
I am open and honest about that fact.
I chat with women and men online, I exchange erotic and saucy stories,
look at images and occasionally delve into the realm of cybersex.
I have a number of private groups and I enjoy doing what I do.
Among my closest friends, I count 4 ladies, an ex wife and my current partner.
Does she mind me chatting to other women? Who benefits? I do but more importantly,
my partner does as well. It helps to open new areas for discovery for us both.
Is it cheating, well I guess cybersex could be, but then as a previous post mentioned,
does looking at porn and privately masterbating fall into 'cheating'?
I guess the only way, is to be open and honest, to care and think of your partners feeling.
That said, I still believe that we all have the right to keep somethings private,
not share them. Do you tell your partner every time you look at a man or
a woman and get a tingling felling between your thighs or that you have
fantasies about makeing love to someone else? Is that's not cheating?
No its the buffer zone between total submission
and retaining your individuality.
If you take 'cybersex' to another level, ie, meeting in person,
and then acting out your fantasies, without your partner knowing,
then yes that's cheating.
I do hope that you both are able to resolve this and both share
in the joys that such a site as this can bring to a relationship.
Just my thoughts even though it's probably been said earlier.
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