I too have disagreed with some of the things said in this thread but it is the very essence of Pixies that very deep and important things can be discussed with respect for other viewpoints.

For me I felt the distress of Jen T and related a lot to what happened at the end of my marriage. My wife felt that the internet was the cause of my problems. It was not actually, it was an outlet that allowed me to keep my sanity in a tough situation.

We went to councselling and we were asked when did you first feel there was trouble in your marriage, My wife said 3 years and I said 10 years. We learnt so much about each other in those sessions with another person present, things that would not have come out without her there. I am sorry that we had not gone years before as it would have changed things a lot.

I have seen that a member of Pixies is leaving and is going to counselling because of this thread and I am hoping and praying for them both. They have both said they love each other so there is real hope.

It is sad to lose a member but what a tragedy if a family falls apart and perhaps this thread has gone some way towards preventing human misery and actually helping rebuild a relationship