I think porn is different because you're getting off on an image whereas cybering is interaction with another person. I've only been on this site for a short time and some pms are innocent, others aren't. I'm sure we're all different and there are thousands of different reasons for logging on.

I've cybered when I was in a long-distance relationship and admittedly, felt guilty about it. When I've purchased erotica or watched porn while dating someone, I didn't have the guilt.

I appreciate every one's viewpoints and wouldn't dream of flaming you RandyGirl - You've made some very good points, too.

My thoughts are with you, Jen.