Ahhh but MilkToast (which by the way I think your name is great)....

trust. I sometimes wonder if we build too much on trust.

Do you think women tell their husbands how much they spend at the hairdresser? Their husbands know that it costs alot so the woman lies to him and tells him that it costs less than it really does.

Trust issue?

Or just avoiding conflict?

Is avoiding conflict always a problem?

Sometimes one partner NEEDS to vent or talk about things which the other one views as threatening.
Sometimes the whole issue of trust is more of a control issue.

**Ugh. Please don't flame me or hate me...I know my ideas are unusual...and sometimes I'm only playing devils advocate to get other ideas on the table**