I'd have to say that while it may not be "technically" cheating it is still a betrayal of the relationship. However, the PMs maybe innocent talking and no cybersex is going on. If he is acting funny about it then I'd be suspicious also. I'd also like to add my $.02 about being a prude. Personally, I feel that expecting a certain level of trust and loyalty from your husband is not being prudish. That is just what your relationship is about...others have different ideals about what marriage is.

Mrs. Bobo