I feel a bit different on this subject.

I don't feel that it's cheating nor do I think it should be looked at as a threat to a relationship.

Many people here are wonderful folks willing to have friendships aside from the fact of where they met.

Sending and recieving PM's doesn't mean anything bad is going on or that it IS going to happen.

Even if people do participate in cybersex, I still don't consider that cheating or threatening. I view it as no different than watching or reading porno. Nope, I see it as personal porno.

Yes. I'm weird.

I do think sometimes people over react to sexual innuendo or discussions especially when their partners have them with online "strangers"...
I have always felt that society is too uptight about sex and THAT makes the topic feel threatening to those who are a bit on the prudish side.

***disclaimer: nothing wrong with being prudish, my own mother being the biggest prude in the world! god love her.