((((Curious gal)))))

I totally feel for you, in this situation, and I'm also really pleased that you're becoming a more sexual person. Yay for you!

I really know where you're coming from as I've been in similar situations myself.

Your situation bears out previous posts of mine in which I've made the point that if sex isn't great for one of you, it probably isn't great for the other either.

Evidently the sex you two have been having has not been fantastic, to the point where you both felt you could take it or leave it. From your own personal self exploration (probably both emotionally and physically) you have become a more sexual person, but you now have the challenge of turning your s/o into one too.

Most men do have a healthy appetite and interest in sex, however they often find it hard to share that with a partner, particularly if they feel a little inhibited about what their partner will find acceptable behaviour in the bedroom. I imagine that in this situation a man can find it hard to get enthusiastic about sex, when it's not the kind of sex they really fantasize about. What I'm trying to say is that people tend to feed off each other with things like this.

What I think, and of course all of this is just my opnion, that you need to do, is let him know that not only do you want sex and plenty of it, you want a different KIND of sex than you've had before. He may be surprised at how much more enthusiastic he is with an enthusiastic partner, rather than one who seems to be able to take it or leave it.

The awkward thing is, he has to experience this new kind of sex with you, before he'll start to want it.....this is the tricky part. I can suggest a few things, but only you will know what works for you:

You've found this site, so how about you show him some of the stories etc on here. I defy anyone not to get turned on by the better stories here, so at the very least it'll be a way to get you two horny and ready for sex. However, the ideal situation would be for this to open up a dialogue between you, giving you an opportunity to share the things that turn you on, little by little. Once you know what are his big turn ons, seducing him will be a much less daunting and far easier task. Also, having the kind of sex that turns you both on will make sex far more exciting and will increase both your enthusiasm and confidence sexually.

Other things you could do would be suggest buying a modest looking vibrator for you both to experiment with, watching porn together, or if you aren't that brave then maybe just some new sexy undies.

I know it's difficult, I know it's still going to take guts, but I KNOW he'll thank you for it. Good luck and keep us posted.

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