Yeah, I totally get what you are saying, me and a lot of my friends have had this conversation before, although I don't agree with them this is their opinion of me.

They believe that after so many years of denying myself of pleasure, hate, anger, that I have attained the ability to emotional detach myself from all things. They say that it would not bother me as much as to be obediant to my family rather than find my own happieness. And although I do agree with this somewhat, what they don't realize is their 'concept' of arranged marriage is slightly out of date. Its not your parents find a girl/boy and that's it your married. There is a 'say' involved and the couple gets to decide whether they marry or not.

But I am totally aware of the fact things can turn out badly if I make a rash choice, but all I have to do is look at my Parents, Grandparents, Uncles, Aunts, all of whom are arranged, and it seems it worked in every situation but 1. Then I look at all my friends who are "Free Love Marriages" and they are under 30 and out of the 5 I am aware of only 2 exist now. But love isn't about statistics I suppose. Wow, I was clear and then I messed myself up again...Sigh, thanks for all your help tho, i really needed to hear an opinion from someone that doens't know me personally...

Thanks.