I have no answer to your problem but agree that AM seems a good idea.

I want to welcome you to pixies and assure you that airing your views and asking advice is the right thing to do and pixies is the right place to do it. You will find that you will get quite a range of views but you will not be 'flamed' or scorned.

I have put all sorts of personal things on here and have had good advice and great caring support and have witnessed the same for many others.

I hope you can find a resolution to your problem

best wishes

Grumble