Wow Loulabelle, you should be a counselor, you were right on targe with all of your comments. He makes those jokes for the exact reason you said and just today I did tell him that I always find him sexy, wine or no wine and at the time I was completely sober! It’s hard to get over years of programming, good girls don’t do that, girls who enjoy sex are sluts. I think for us we have that from both sides, not to any extreme, but there’s a bit of that thinking going on. We are best friends so it’s hard to see each other as wildly sexual people, but after spending a little time on Pixies I am feeling more and more confident that we can both come around. He doesn’t know about Pixies, I don’t think he’s ready to open up and admit that he can enjoy a site like this…heck, I’m not even ready to admit it to him yet. Gotta get over this fear of being judged. I have to be comfortable in my own skin before I can bring him in to my new found sexual energy. It’ll be a long road! Thanks for being here to help me down it.