GirlsRule,

Listen to Loulabelle - she is talking good sense, as always.

It sounds to me as if your situation is not completely bad. You are discussing it and, most importantly, he masturbates, so there must be some drive there. Try encouraging him to do it when you are with him. Put your head on his shoulder, and ask him to get himself erect while you cup his balls in your hand. That's it - don't ask for any more at first unless he wants to carry on. Eventuallyhe should be able to masturbate with you helping and when you have his trust in this situation, you can masturbate to - at least you'll be doing something together.

The other thing to consider is going to the doctor together. Make sure you go to a sensitive one, and explain your problem. There might be simple fix with testosterone to increase his drive. If the doctor can't help, get a referral to a sex therapist. There has to be some way to improve on what you've got.