I really want to say that I am totally unqualified to offer an opinion other than that I am a guy who has been married for a similar length of time as you.

Looking at tantric sex has been great for me and I would have a look at

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have a good look at - to read - how to - erotic massage - male

This may help to refocus sexual energy.

Good Luck!

Is it illegal to spike a drink with viagra? When we have had lean times it has been a case of breaking the ice.

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