To answer a few questions posed by CasperGT and krzykrn.

We have never tried me on top and I agree with all of you that it's an amazing thing for him to not want to try. What guy wouldn't want to sit back and be pleasured? Well my husband is not very sexual. Getting him to have sex at all is like pulling teeth. Partly because he doesn't feel very well all of the time and sex definetly requires energy and I suppose how can you feel sexy when you are not feeling great. What he doesn't get is that it doesn't always have to be so much effort, we can just touch each other or I don't at all mind just satisfying him. As for him satisfying me, he is not a selfish person at all, he's actually a very loving and giving husband, but for some reason it doesn't flow over to the bedroom. : (