Like someone else,,when I saw this post I wasn't going to post but figured you all had the guts so I should to. Mine was a b/f who supposedly loved me and cared for me, and for all you that say it's your fault-I also think that, I stayed with him after the first,second,third and fourth time he did it, I was stupid and naive he said it wouldn't happen again he was sorry and I stupidly believed him. I would cry and say no and it didn't matter, he didn't care that I was bleeding, and hurt looking back I think he liked it,,almost like that was his goal, to make me bleed. He didn't just use himself either, whatever was handy made a good tool to cause me pain to punish me for whatever suppossed act I did that day that might have embarrassed him or whatever his rational was, there was no rational to what he did, a year later I found out how much damage he did not ony to my mental well being but physically I had to have surgery to repair the damage, let alone the years of thearpy and all the other things I did to myself. I look at mine different I let him continue to do it,by staying with him,,,I was stupid, and a very young 19. It did help to make me who I am today but there are parts of that person I don't like much because of it,,,,and I am still working on that,,,it has been over 7 years since I have even seen this person in the flesh but I still have nightmares about it and him,,I just wish they would go away,,
Anywazz sorry for rambling but thought I would share since everyone else was soo good too

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Lisa