To be fair on the parents, 14 year old girls can be the most secretive, devious people going. I know, I remember being one I kept everything from my mother. She only found out about things on the few occasions I got caught and I was then suitably punished. She wasn't doing anything wrong as a parent, she couldn't have made me share what I was getting up, I wouldn't have divulged anything to her for love nor money.