Bama - I think the statistics I remember from many years ago was that the "estimate" is that 1 in 10 women is raped (in the US).... and they have always assumed that estimate is low .... maybe very low because so many rapes go unreported. I have never been raped, but I know the details of at least one friend who was .... and I suspect, since I have a lot of female friends, that I know a few more who have been raped and just have never told me about it! You are not alone, you are among friends and you have the strength to make sure any victim mentality you carried with you in the past is washed away!