The term hand job is really a misnomer when sensually and rhyhmically done.
You stated it very well Neige in your assessment. You play off his emotions and he is heightened further by you enjoying your control.

I think some men are starting to look for more sensuality and appreciating its value rather than the usual "that felt great"

Also, it gives him the mood and feel to touch off those sensitive and sensual areas of the woman with the right applied touch of his own, lips, tongue , hands, fingers etc. There are a lot of ways to build a fire.

PS.

VERY nice erotic and sensual pic, Neige. Nice poses, nice class