You said he's hard to talk to because he takes everything as a personal attack. This worries me because that's the way my husband is and also my soon to be ex son-in-law. (I guess you could say my daughter is a much faster learner than I am!) Speaking from quite a few years experience with someone like this, I don't think there's much hope. There's probably not much chance of getting through to him. You deserve to be fulfilled sexually and emotionally too. I would try communicating to him what you want and need and if he doesn't get it, or makes it seem like it's all your problem, I'd show him the door.