I have also been going through the same things soft of. I am a 37 yeard old woman amd my guy is 41. However, he currently involved with alot in his life work, coaching sports etc. When we first got involved it was clear that he had commitments but it has been over two years and in that time we have become very close in every aspect. The problem is I am feeling left out. I want more of his attention and just don't feel like I am getting it so I have been giving him in a round about way ultimatims which i probably shouldn't do. All that has become of it is that I am pushing this man away instead of getting what i hoped for, It has nothing to do with him not caring for me but I still take it personal and i shouldn't. I have noticed that if you push too hard you can lose. Try to be patient, I know it is difficult to do trust me but if you guys are meant to be together it will work out on it's own. Good Luck to you I only wish I could follow my own advice.

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Missy