In what way was I giving her a hard time?

Loren and I were the only ones to offer her an honest response not one designed only to make her feel better about a crappy situation. When a couple goes over a year without sex with no medical reason something is wrong with the relationship. Sure she sees it now but maybe if people had been a little more honest and less aimed at pointing out how I wasn't being a nice guy she could have seen this coming.

It also not entirely about being right either (I'll be honest it partially is), but about being honest with people. She came here with a situation, to which I offered my honest opinion, and what I felt were solutions to the problem. What I got in return were attacks on my relationship with my wife, name calling, and general rudeness. Sometimes people make the bad choices in life, or don't see the whole situation because they're in the middle of it. Sometimes it takes someone else, a friend or (rude) stranger on the internet, to point out the situation. Maybe I went about it in the wrong way, or could have said it in a different way. What doesn't change is someone needed to tell her that something was wrong with her relationship if there was no physical affection with in it.

As Oldfart pointed out earlier in this thread this forum is here to help people. Was anyone really helping her by letting her believe there was nothing wrong with her relationship?

But hey, if in the long run it turns out I was wrong, and everything turns out peachy keen, then great. But is it really a healthy relationship that goes over a year with no physical love?