I had a vasectomy after our third child was born. We were on the fence about having a third, and he made our mind up for us. We knew three was our limit, and as a rule...vasectomy is a less intrusive (= less risky) option, so that's what we opted for. Had Mrs. WI needed a c-section, I don't know what we would've chosen.

I've always been of the school that says "any surgery carries an inherent risk", but not ignoring a potential problem isn't always an option. Things tend not to go away.

Sorry if I'm of no help, but just cuz I don't have anything good to say doesn't mean I don't care.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.