Seems to me it should be your wife that you should be telling in advance.


Let me create a conversation involving this scenario.

Me: I've invited Mr. & Mrs. Lil over for dinner on Saturday, is that ok?
Mrs. WI: Yeah, that's a great idea.

Me: I think we should send the kids over to my parents for the evening...you know how loud you and Lil get when the wine starts flowing.
Mrs. WI: Ok, that's good. We won't spend half the night telling them to go to sleep.

Me: I fully intend to bang Lil right here on the kitchen table, so you may wanna plan on starting drinking early.
Mrs. WI: Thanks for the warning...you better hide the carving knives.

Me: ha ha...I'm serious.
Mrs. WI: ha ha...me too.

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