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Originally Posted by Loulabelle

To understand cheating, one first must understand attraction and that's something that is beyond most of our capabilities.....

... What I do believe, is that for some people, for whatever reason, being faithful is not a possibility. I think it's important that people like that recognise it in themselves and are open about it with potential partners. There is no point trying to fit a square peg in a round hole, yet many people consistently enter into monogamous agreements which they then dishonour as they do not know themselves well enough to realise that being faithful is not a viable option for them. Yes time, and 'the right person' may well change that, but why bother hurting lots of people along the line until you have found that person or reached that point in life where you are ready to settle down?

As so often, Lou, I think you've hit the nail right on it's nasty metal head!
As I advance into my (dotage!) middle-age years, I look back at some of the times I cheated - or wanted to - and wonder, why? Why did I do what I did, why did I cause pain and hurt to people I (was supposed to) love? And I say "people", because I don't believe it's ever just one person you hurt when you cheat - it's also the person you cheat with, and anyone else caught on the periphery, in my case a (at the time) 8 year-old daughter.

And guess what - I am still not sure why it happened, not really. All I know is, this time feels different - I don't have any urge to cheat, unless you count being here as cheating!!, and I don't believe I will in the future. (Above mentioned daughter loves my lady to bits - she'd kill me!!) Maybe I've just grown up!!

I'm going to buzz off now - rambling again!

DM