Tell me your tips.....
 

....on getting pregnant!

Did you lie with your legs above your head afterwards?

Is it important not to bathe/shower for a period of time afterwards?

What should I be doing to make sure the sperm is getting to where it needs to be?!!

I had a lot of trouble Lou. I used to jump right up after and go clean up. One thing I started doing was rolling on to my side and just relaxing for a bit. Because Mr. Lil was a runner his sperm were not so just letting gravity and nature have a few minutes may have helped contribute to me getting knocked up.

Do it on the 13th of 14th day after the first day your period starts.

I did every tip imaginable.....the time I can't remember what we did, I got pregnant.

I've been following tips on when to do it, and not moving around too much afterwards...but I've also tried not to stress too much about it either (with mixed results!) I'm just trying all the right things at the beginning, rather than just assuming it'll happen without making a concerted effort and then being worried when I'm still not preggers in a year's time.

It's funny how you know all about the birds and bees until it suddenly becomes relevant to you, and then you realise that you have no idea about the actual mechanics of it! For example, I learned today that my egg will only stay viable for a maximum of 24 hours after it is released before it dissolves, whereas his sperm can live in me for about 4 days! No wonder timing is so crucial!

You should be making sure you are consuming enough folic acid which helps develop the baby's brain and Mr. Lil was told orange juice could help the swimmers do their job.

Like Lil, I was a "side roller." And for the week before and up to ovulation, every other day--in some cases, EVERY day reduces the quality/quantity of the sperm.

I found in my last pregnancy that the electronic fertility monitors were 2350982395820% better than the "regular" kind, if you're interested in that kind of thing. I also charted basal body temperatures for months to get a sense of my "pattern."

Been taking a vitamin and folic acid supplement especially designed for conception/pregnancy/breast feeding since November Lil. ;)

And I've just found out about vit C too...thankfully Fussy loves OJ!

i've always heard put your legs up, that causes his "stuff" to get down where it's supposed to be quicker. I've also heard that doggy style is more likely to get you pregnant becuase of where everything gets deposited. It's also supposed to be more likely to get you a boy.

Don't know if these are old wives tales or not, but they worked for me.

Try to have an orgasm AFTER he ejaculates in you. An orgasm will cause your vagina to flex dipping your cervix in the pool of semen he's put in you.

Will be avoiding doggy then - I want a girl! LMAO

Jude30 - I've heard that too, but unfortunately, having an orgasm on demand with a small window of opportunity (i.e. before he goes soft and needs to collapse!) is not easy...even for a sex goddess such as myself! LOL

This thread reminded me of high school, there was a girl in my class who started seeing this guy and she figured that if she was on top that the sperm would all run back out. Nine months later after the child was born she decided that birth control was a better option.

I also have a cousin by marriage who could'nt get pregnant so they adopted and right after that she ended up pregnant with a total of 4 girls over the years. Plus the boy they adopted.

The only thing I know is that the harder you try and stress over it the longer it takes. So relax, convience yourself it will happen when it happens, stay out of the hot tub(heard something somewhere about the hot water lowers sperm count or something) and just have sex everyday!!!! :D

But really, best of luck to you and Fussy!!

Well apparently, research has shown that woman on top is the least effective position to choose if you are trying to conceive, but of course, that doesn't mean it's impossible!

We're not really stressing about it too much - to be honest we're having too much fun trying! LOL

even if you can't cum after he does, you can still do the kegel thing. and pulling your knees up afterwards will help keep em all in there. and don't pee after sex if you can help it!.... you'll wipe 'em all out. lol

happy baby making (((lou and fussy)))

THAT'LL do it, so I heard!!! Having fun and relaxing is just about the best way to "do it" I reckon......with any luck, a relaxed conceptiion will carry on throughout the wee uns' life!!

DM

It took Mrs. WI and I a full year to conceive our daughter (second child). We were at the point of having her lay on pillows with her pelvis elevated after climax; taking her temperature half the day; red "x" 's all over the Basal Body Temperature Chart; and yes...no undies for me. :p

We were so stressed out that I'm sure our bodies were working against us. We got to the point where when the "temp was right", she'd look at me and say "just fuck me really quick before you go to bed". I swear, I lost it! I told her "I'm sick of fucking for procreation! I just wanna fuck you for fun! This isn't fun!" She said "You know what...you're right. We need to make it fun again." She left the room and came back in with the most ridiculous straw hat on and we laughed so hard. We had great, fun & relaxed sex. It wasn't long after that we did conceive and I just know it made all the difference.

Motto of the story...








Get a straw hat. :p

I got a girl out of it ;)

Great story WI! I'll bare it in mind for future reference. Hopefully it won't come to such desperate measures! LOL

IWM - I can't imagine ever being able to turn down doggy from Fussy, whether I want a girl or not! It's just tooooooo much fun!


Anyway, it's in the laps of the Gods again for this month.....I'll keep you posted. :p

i am sorry that i don't have much advice as i am one of those women that got preggers when she didn't expect it. BUT i am very grateful for both.

But you KNOW that i am thinking and hoping and praying for ya. Once you do become pregnant, the world changes its colours. You feel like "wow, i am going to be someone's Mum!" It is amazing what our bodies can do--grow a child and we don't have to think about it--it does it all on its own. I sat there and held my belly all the time, even when i was first PG and baby was still just an embryo, i would hold my belly.

Also, as like others had said, relax. I just read a study done that showed that conception rates increased substantially when couples were more relaxed about TTC (Trying to Conceive) or they had given up on TTC (I believe this was the case of our very own Mr. and Mrs. IWM) Enjoy your baby dancing and cuddle cuddle cuddle after making love.

I am keeping my fingers crossed for you two

(((((Lou~Fussy~Baby-to-be))))))

I got chills reading this. I did the same thing. I even look at her now and can't believe she is the little thing in all my ultrasound pictures. Mr. IWM holds her and says "wow, your mommy was right about the way you kicked her inside of her" It's a neat thing that's for sure.

Do it again??? nah....I'll pass. Well, unless another miracle happens of course.

Hehehehe...I'm holding my belly already and there may not be anything there! LOL

Can't help it...just knowing there MIGHT be is so exciting and amazing. :D

(((((Lou)))))) ~~ no advice. Just a hug.

It really is the neatest thing in the world. I look at my son now and how big he's gotten (he'll be two this summer). It amazes me to know that my little peanut was once nothing more than a pea.

Lou, it's all worth it. The stretch marks, lack of sleep, the hurt, the kicks, I swear to God it's the best thing ever in the long run. But I'm sure you know this already.

Hijack---- HI LAW!!! long time no see! great to see ya back!

back to our regularly scheduled "get preggers Lou" thread.

still keeping my fingers crossed for ya----no hut for you!

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Awww thanks peeps! It looks like it's a no-go this month.....the waiting was driving me a little screwy, so I did an early test this morning. It was negative. Of course, early tests are not always that accurate, so it's possible I still might be, but is looking less likely now.

The thing is, I've been having some unusual cramping sensations in my lower abdomen...something like a cross between early period pains and the kind of niggling sensation of a bladder infection. If I still have the same feeling by the time I'm in the hut, I'm off to the doctors, just in case I need antibiotics!

Another tip that helped me was to lose 10 pounds. My first infertility doctor suggested it and I thought he was just being rude but he explained something about fat cells being hormone recptacles and that it can be a problem.

Not that I know anything about getting pregnant - but I wanted to chime in that I read an article just last night that was weight loss related and it talked about the release of hormones while losing weight, which seems to agree with what Lil is saying. :)

Yes, I've read that too, and I'm trying to decrease my fat/calorie intake and up my exercise levels too. Unfortunately, these things don't come easily to me and when faced with stress I tend to comfort eat!

I never knew that, but come to think of it, just before I found out I was pregnant, I had lost like 10 lbs because of stress. Wow, that might have helped me out! :)

It is so frustrating waiting for my period to come on Sunday! I know I've taken a test and I'm not pregnant so why do I still 'feel' pregnant?! Not that I really know what pregnant feels like, of course, but I certainly do feel....well....different. I just want to get it over with so we can get to the next cycle of trying! Fussy's disappointed too, and we're both fluctuating between, 'well we still might be pg' and 'Oh well, we'll try again next month'. Grrrr

Everything you are saying I have heard from my own mouth and heart as well. You are not alone. I would urge you to focus on something else and try not to allow yourself to become wrapped up in the emotional roller coaster. For me it was a long process and it really wasted some precious time. It may not become a long process for you but you should try to avoid starting a routine or cycle of feelings that leaves you depressed for 2 weeks out of a month just in case.

Hi Liz!

We weren't really trying to be pregnant when our son was born, but I still wanted to be pregnant so bad. I remember a couple times just sitting and crying when my period came becuase I wanted it to STAY AWAY!

Lou, it will come when you least expect it, I promise.

Lilith - Yes, I'm trying not to care too much! LOL. It's difficult though, when you have to remember to take the Folic acid tablet every day, and be aware of your cycle. One month, we just decided to leave it to fate, but we ended up not having sex the whole week leading up to ovulation...when my period came I felt worse for not having given it my best shot! It felt like a wasted opportunity. I think at this stage, we aren't so much wrapped up in the roller coaster, as we are excited about the journey upon which we're embarking. Excited and more than a little bit terrified! LOL

LAW - Hehehe the pressure not to think about getting pregnant is worse the pressure of wanting to be pregnant! But I know what you mean....it'll happen when it happens, and I know it's just a case of relaxing and being patient.

Oy! and patience is not one of my virtues! LOL I'll keep hoping and praying :D

you know, a December or January baby would be nice...A Christmas prezzie or a new years baby :D I know quite a few people that were born in Dec/Jan....Springtime is a horny time of the year :D

I disagree - being a December baby is no fun, I know.....you get screwed out of birthday and Christmas presents, you usually get one "big present" :mad:

Just relax and things will happen when they are supposed to happen. If things take longer than you think they should - keep putting the "stuff" where it belongs, it'll take hold eventually.

My sister's a December baby....so it's a very expensive month for me, but to be honest, I don't care when it's due/born, I'd just like him/her to be ours. :)

My newest sensation to add to my probably imaginary pregnancy symptoms, is a kind of, almost burning sensation in my breasts.....they are usually very tender this close to Hut day but the kind of fiery tingle is new to me. I keep having the urge to but cold things on them to soothe them.

I'd suggest just that. An application of ice then followed up my some nice warm man-produced massage cream :D And of course you should take pics to illustrate the medical effectiveness of this procedure.

OMG I think my body was just^^^^ inhabited by WI there for a moment :D

Not sure why I have been thinking of all of the things we did to TRY to get pregnant, seems like a blur but here are some more things......
My doctor had me use a temperature/sex chart Chart
I had to take my temperature orally every morning before even getting out of bed and write it down. I also had to write if we had intercourse.

I started it on day one. The first day of your period. You may see around day 13-15 that your temperature is a bit higher than normal. This is when you're ovulating. I did have times that it never changed, which meant I didn't ovulate that month.

He also had me buy Ovulation Tests to ensure I was ovulating. Once it says positive (day 14 normally for me) then I had like 24 hours to have sex.

I did this process for about 2 years, with problems along the way. (surgeries for cysts on ovaries, etc)

All that work.......I stopped doing it in like December after having annother unsuccessful IUI done in November and January got pregnant. All that and I couldn't tell ya when it happened in January. Couldn't even have told you when my last period was! :eek: (the whole "give up and it'll work" theory)

Still wishing you much luck. I know how hard it can be on you. I never realized until I got pregnant what a tole it took on my husband and I and how we really gave up on so much along the way after so many let downs. We were close to giving up on our marriage, just didn't have the heart to tell the other. Please don't let that happen to you guys. You're newly married and need to enjoy eachother. What I mean by this is.....being pregnant is pretty tough for 40 weeks and then having an addition to your family is REALLY tough. I never imagined it being this hard. Maybe because I'm 33 I dont know, but it's certainly a life change. You're constantly busy with the little angel and you TRY not to make alllll your conversations with Mr. be about baby, but it just happens..... So, for right now, until you conceive...enjoy sleeping thru the night, cuddling to FP and watching grown up things on tv :)

I'll keep thinking! Hugs

Tip 1. When you think you have done it enough, do it again.
Tip 2. Don't use rubbers.
Tip 3. If he can't help you, call me!

Is that what the kids are calling it nowadays?