it is a sick sad scary world sometimes. :(
hang in there and maybe, if you can, try not to read or watch everything they are reporting on the news. it can tear you up all over again, make you feel like it just happened everytime you do. just because you don't keep yourself constantly aware of it doesn't mean you care any less about it.
((hugs))

The loss is a personal tragedy to the family and friends.

"Why the attractive ones"? What little I've read says that these sickos feel that they have

an ownership of the taken life after the act, and the more socially and civically valued or

sought after the victim, the more intrinsically valuable the prize.

Sane people understand that a life is a life, beyond value, but occasionally we are called on

to make judgements on life and death.

Transplant lists and triage choices are the most obvious of these.

This is not a fun topic. Did anyone mention naked, butterscotch schnapps soaked twister?

Lil, what is GAL?

For the first few days I did feel the pain and grief but as time has gone on, its dulled into a profound sadness that such a thing should happen and that a life has ended this way. I was lucky I wasn't alone during this time, as the g/f was here, she understood and just listened, giving me space when I needed it, yet being there without being intrusive.

When the closure comes, and the body is found, then it'll re-open everything again to some extent.

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(((((((((pash))))))))) sorry ive been so busy the last few days, weve not had a chance to chat like norm!!! u know im here and u got my # txt meif u need to . i dont know if u remember but back around 3 yrs ago this fall two young girls were abducted and killed by that bastard whos injail right now and his girlfriend covered up for him. he was a janator at their school so they knew his face and trusted him, they were found not to much more than a mile from my home. and i never had met them, they were from a town closer to where i live now than where i lived then. my daughter was just about to turn one. i was wrecked , what he did to them , how he left them, how he lied to the cam and reporters. i lost alot of sleep , and mourned with everyone who knew or jeard of them , i wanted to go to the moom and hug her and hold her , the dad as well for that matter, i was torn up. im very over protective of my daughter because of it ive moved on because i had to , but every time i drive down the road they were found on i say a prayer for them and their familys.

im here if u need me babe

nikki

I didn't realise you were that close to that horrible event... Its not pleasant at all, but in these situations, when confronted with such horrors close to home, we have all to find the strength and courage to keep going, even if we don't feel like it. Very often we all find out new things about ourselves.

You know, I was sat having a drink this evening (a fruit tea, I can't drink caffeine this close to bed), I realised how lucky we in Pixies are, in that we always have someone here to share troubles with, to have a joke with etc. So thanks to everyone, for what we all do for each other.

(Does that first paragraph make sense....?)

With a heavy heart, I have to bump this thread to say that a body has been found this evening, thought to be my old work colleague, Jo Nelson.

Farewell, Jo, now rest in peace. :(

Pashkin, you have my sympathy! Just remember, as long as the memory of the person exists in ones mind, the person never really dies! from one who has lost too many people very close to me, I know what you are going through! If you ever need to talk, dont be afraid to contact me!

Sending you hugs.

Fortunately, I had taken some photos at a leaving party at the company we worked for and I found them yesterday afternoon. Thanks to them I shall never forget. Thanks to everyone for their kind thoughts.

Unfortunately the preliminary post-mortem results are bad....

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